Gay men sleeping with women
Sexplain It: I’m a Queer Man—So Why Am I Thinking About Sleeping With Women?
I'm Zachary Zane, a sex writer, author, and ethical Boyslut (a want way of saying I sleep with a lot of people, and I'm very, very open about it). Over the years, I've had my equitable share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and many other places, TBH). I'm here to address your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner" because you know that already. Ask me anything—literally, anything—and I will gladly Sexplain It.
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Dear Sexplain It,
I'm a gay man, and I've known as such for a while. I've been getting offers to join some straight cis couples in threesomes or group play, and I have recently found myself open to the notion of having sex with a woman just for the vibes of the event. Not necessarily because I'm attracted to them like that, but just because I know it would give them pleasure, too. I'm not sure what t For the past year, I’ve been having regular sex with a gay gentleman I'll call Oliver. We were best friends for years, attending many Self-acceptance parades and taking weekend hiking trips. But last year, after a very drunken night, we slept together—and we still are today. He maintains that he still is, and always has been, a gay man. After the first time, we were predictably awkward and British about it. We laughed a bit that it had happened, and then we agreed we shouldn’t execute it again. That lasted maybe three days. The first few months had all the expected exciting parts of sleeping with your best bud, but they were also tinged with this brand new fresh thing. Oliver had never been with a girl before, and he was completely unaware of what a vulva or a clitoris was. Fortunately, Oliver had the benefit of my feminist Orgasm Gap rants over the past five years, and took to the task of making me come with admirable tenacity. One of the sweetest moments of that year was ruling the book She Comes First on his bedside table. Men I’ve slept with before often have this false bravado around sex, like they need Photo by Dr. Les from Flickr CC / Sexuality and inequality research by Eliza Brown and Paula England | February 29, If you know which sexual orientation people identify with, how much does that tell you about whether they have sex with women, men, or both? How similar or unlike are the links between identity and behavior for women and men? Building on our post from last June, “Women’s sexual orientation and sexual behavior: How well do they match?” we update the analysis of women to include more recent statistics and add an examination of data on men. We’re using data from the , , and National Survey of Family Progress for men and women 15 to 44 years of age. Detailed tables, along with how we generated our measures, are in the Appendix at the end of this display . Here we focus on a few specific questions: How common is it for heterosexual men and women to have sex with same-sex sexual partners? Unsurprisingly, almost none of the men identifying as heterosexual hold had only male sexual partners and only 2% say they have had even one male sexual partner (Table 1). For women, prefer men, almost none of those who id According to nationally-representative surveys in the United States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men. In the new book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting. After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they relax a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly naming with straight culture. We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book. Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men? The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Sex with men allowed them to include more sex. They don’t consider sex with men cheating and s .
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