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Why do gay guys keep hitting on me?
What's with the queer man trying to fuck the straight man? I mean, I understand the fantasy element to a degree, but the persistence almost makes me wanna beat some ass. Not in a sexual fashion, of course.
— Tired of It
Dear Homo,
I dislike to break this to you, but gay guys don't hit on another guy unless they reflect he's gay or bi. I'm thinking maybe your friends know something you don't.
Here's what happens when we gay guys meet a straight guy who turns us on: We try to receive to know him and figure out if he's closeted or bi without coming on to him. We're not overt for obvious reasons: 1) We might get the erroneous kind of pounding; 2) We might ruin our chances if he's a closet case who wigs out; and 3) We set ourselves up for an extremely awkward or humiliating experience if we're wrong about his orientation.
So, we look for certain signals during a conversation — does he hold eye contact longer than usual? Does he have a girlfriend or wife? Does he convey up women? Is he giving off a sexual vibe? Does he feel personally interested in what you're saying? Does he seem interested, period? If we perceive him to be straight, we don't g
Tips for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men – in a shielded and respectful way
To begin, I&#;d like to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to explore their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it&#;s important to know that you can strive new things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who yearn to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.
Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and identify as men too.Cis is the contrary of trans. We consider trans men morehere, andhere’s some support and counsel about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.
1. Be honest from the get-go that you&#;re curious
Whether you want to hook up with someone you&#;re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you&#;ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning. Many queer people are compassionate and caring partners
People are all too rapid to pigeonhole bisexual and pansexual guys. Dating someone femme-presenting? You’re straight. Virtual dating someone on the masculine side? Secretly gay and not ready to own up it. Dating a agender person who presents androgynously? Also gay, probably.
The thing is, bi and pan (short for “pansexual”) guys exist – I recognize, because I am one. These fundamental misconceptions swirl around mainstream gay scenes and straight spaces alike. I once had a threesome with two homosexual German guys and afterwards one playfully referred to me as a “baby queer” – erm, no, I’m just as lgbtq+ as you mate; did you not notice when I was sucking your dick?
But let’s say you’re a guy who’s realised that, like me, you might not be totally straight – but you’ve only ever been in heterosexual relationships. You’re keen to explore, but you’re also anxious about the whole thing. Does that sound like you? In honour of Bisexuality Visibility Week, here are some pointers to help you navigate the terrain. Not you? Maybe still read on, so you can know our sexuality a tiny better.
So you&#;ve got an inkling you&#;re not totally straight, but how undertake you know for sure?
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